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Orthodox prayers for self-control

Pray these when willpower runs out, at the table or with a habit you cannot break. They put the fight in God’s hands.

Picture: Ivan Kramskoi, Christ in the Wilderness, 1872

4 prayers

When willpower is not enough

St Augustine’s prayer for self-control

All my hope is in nothingbut Your very great mercy.Give what You command,and command what You will.

You command us to be self-controlled.As someone has said,“I knew that no one can be self-controlledunless God gives it,and this too was wisdom,to know whose gift it is.”

By self-control we are gathered upand brought back to the Onefrom Whom we had scattered into many things.He loves You too littlewho loves anything alongside Youthat he does not love for Your sake.

O Love, You always burnand are never put out!O Love, my God, set me on fire!You command self-control:give what You command,and command what You will.

Traditional wording, 1886

And my whole hope is only in Thy exceeding great mercy.Give what Thou commandest, and command what Thou wilt.

Thou imposest continency upon us, “nevertheless, when I perceived,” saith one, “that I could not otherwise obtain her, except God gave her me; . . . that was a point of wisdom also to know whose gift she was.”

For by continency are we bound up and brought into one, whence we were scattered abroad into many.For he loves Thee too little who loves aught with Thee, which he loves not for Thee,

O Love, Who ever burnest, and art never quenched!O Charity, my God, kindle me!Thou commandest continency; give what Thou commandest, and command what Thou wilt.

St Augustine knew he could not master his desires by his own strength. So he asked God to give the very self-control God commands.

Plain English by Wiser Walk, from the Latin of his Confessions, with J. G. Pilkington’s 1886 translation beside it. How the wording is made. Traditional wording: J. G. Pilkington, The Confessions, in Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers, 1886.

Where it comes from, and the Latin

For the tongue, the eyes and the appetite

The prayer of Sirach for self-control

Who will set a guard over my mouth,and a wise seal on my lips,so that I do not fall because of my tongue,and it does not destroy me?

O Lord, Father and Master of my life,do not leave me to the counsel of my lips,and do not let me fall by them.

Who will set whips over my thoughts,and the discipline of wisdom over my heart?Then they will not spare my mistakesor let my sins go by,and my mistakes will not multiply,nor my sins grow many,and I will not fall before my opponentswith my enemy gloating over me.

O Lord, Father and God of my life,do not give me proud eyes,and turn craving away from me.Let neither greed for food nor lust take hold of me,and do not give me over to a shameless mind.

Traditional wording, 1851

Who shall set a watch before my mouth, and a seal of wisdom upon my lips, that I fall not suddenly by them, and that my tongue destroy me not?

O Lord, Father and Governor of my life, leave me not to their counsels, and let me not fall by them.

Who will set scourges over my thoughts, and the discipline of wisdom over mine heart? that they spare me not for mine ignorances, and it pass not by my sins:lest mine ignorances increase, and my sins abound to my destruction, and I fall before mine adversaries, and mine enemy rejoice over me, whose hope is far from Thy mercy.

O Lord, Father and God of my life, give me not a proud look.Turn away concupiscence from me.Let not the greediness of the belly nor lust of the flesh take hold of me; and give me not over into an impudent mind.

This prayer from the Book of Sirach calls God Father and asks Him to rule the tongue, the thoughts, the eyes and the cravings of the body.

Plain English by Wiser Walk, from the Greek of the Book of Sirach, with Brenton’s 1851 English beside it. How the wording is made. Traditional wording: Lancelot C. L. Brenton, The Septuagint Version of the Old Testament, 1851.

Brenton’s English ends verse 3 with “whose hope is far from Thy mercy”, which the Greek the plain wording follows does not have.

Where it comes from, and the Greek

When food has too strong a hold

St John of Kronstadt’s prayer against gluttony

Lord, You are our sweetest Food,Who never perishesbut endures to eternal life!

Cleanse (name), Your servant,from the filth of gluttony,so wholly of the fleshand so foreign to Your Spirit,and grant them to know the sweetnessof Your life-giving spiritual food,which is Your Flesh and Bloodand Your holy, living and active word.

Lord, You are our sweetest Food,Who never perishesbut endures to eternal life!

Cleanse me, Your servant,from the filth of gluttony,so wholly of the fleshand so foreign to Your Spirit,and grant me to know the sweetnessof Your life-giving spiritual food,which is Your Flesh and Bloodand Your holy, living and active word.

Traditional wording, 1897

Lord, Thou art our sweetest Food, that never perishes, but leads us unto life eternal!

Purify Thy servant from the filthiness of gluttony, so carnal and so far from Thy Spirit,and grant that he may know the sweetness of Thy Life-giving, spiritual food,which is Thy Flesh and Blood, and Thy holy, living, and acting word.

Pray it for overeating, your own or someone else’s. It asks God for a taste for Christ, the food that never perishes, in place of gluttony.

Plain English by Wiser Walk, from the Church Slavonic, as the Russian prayer book prints it, with E. E. Goulaeff’s 1897 translation beside it. How the wording is made. Traditional wording: E. E. Goulaeff, My Life in Christ, 1897.

Where it comes from, and the Church Slavonic

When you keep breaking your resolve

O wretched man that I am

I know that nothing good lives in me,that is, in my flesh.I want to do what is good,but I find no way to carry it out.I do not do the good I want to do,but the evil I do not want is what I do.And if I do what I do not want,it is no longer I who do it,but the sin that lives in me.

So I find this law at work:when I want to do good,evil is right there with me.In my inner self I delight in the law of God,but I see another law in my body,at war with the law of my mindand making me a prisonerof the law of sin that is in my body.

What a wretched person I am!Who will rescue me from this body of death?I thank God, through Jesus Christ our Lord!

Traditional wording, 1611

For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing:for to will is present with me;but how to perform that which is good I find not.For the good that I would I do not:but the evil which I would not, that I do.Now if I do that I would not,it is no more I that do it,but sin that dwelleth in me.

I find then a law, that, when I would do good,evil is present with me.For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:But I see another law in my members,warring against the law of my mind,and bringing me into captivityto the law of sin which is in my members.

O wretched man that I am!who shall deliver me from the body of this death?I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Anyone who has promised to stop and then given in again will know these words of Paul. His cry for help ends in thanks to God through Christ.

Plain English by Wiser Walk, from the Greek of Romans 7:18-25, up to Paul’s thanks, with the King James wording beside it. How the wording is made. Traditional wording: The King James translators, The King James Version, 1611.

The King James “wretched man” stands for a Greek word that means any human being, so the plain wording says “person”.

Where it comes from, and the Greek

Scripture for this

22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23 Paul names self-control among the fruit of the Spirit, which the Spirit grows in a believer.

5For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith virtue; and to virtue, knowledge; 6and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;

2 Peter 1:5-6 Peter tells believers to add self-control to their faith and knowledge, and perseverance to their self-control.

Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who does not control his temper.

Proverbs 25:28 A person without self-control is like a city whose walls are broken down.

25Everyone who competes in the games trains with strict discipline. They do it for a crown that is perishable, but we do it for a crown that is imperishable. 26Therefore I do not run aimlessly; I do not fight like I am beating the air. 27No, I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.

1 Corinthians 9:25-27 Paul trains like an athlete, keeping his body under control so that he will not be disqualified.

11For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to everyone. 12It instructs us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live sensible, upright, and godly lives in the present age,

Titus 2:11-12 God’s grace teaches us to say no to worldly passions and to live self-controlled lives.

“Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything.

1 Corinthians 6:12 Paul refuses to be mastered by anything, even by what he is free to do.

Bible text: Berean Standard Bible, public domain.

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